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Pain, fear and anger are actually our emotional friends but when we don't pay attention to them, they act like enemies in our life and relationships. The Emotional Re-education Workshops are designed to assist individuals and couples to deal with emotions of pain, fear and anger in healthy ways so that bonding can happen. Bonding is a biologically based need for emotional and physical closeness. This need for bonding is not sex (although that can be added to it), it is not weakness, insecurity or luxury. It is a human necessity. When the needs for bonding are fulfilled, it gives pleasure. And when it is unfulfilled, it can result in incredible pain, fear and anger. Our society as a whole appears to be suffering from a deprivation of fulfilled emotional needs. In 1977 the American Medical Association released a news bulletin to the fact that bonding was essential for newborn infants. Only now are we waking up and beginning to realize that adults need bonding as well. The fulfillment of the need for bonding causes DIS-EASE and finally DISEASE. The first part of the workshop elicits historical feelings arising from past experiences and early life decisions, expressing them in full measure and then taking in pleasure in their place. The second part consists of being freed to examine our beliefs and actions connected to past feelings and changing those which prevent us from meeting our needs in the present. This basic attitude work has to do with discovering our miss-programmed attitudes and learning to express affirmative phrases to change them. The Bonding workshop can surface and resolve many of the common problem areas in relationships. It can teach those who are unable to receive and accept love to take in pleasure, give love, drain off historical anger and express current anger in appropriate ways. It helps clear up confusion so new ways of seeing and perceiving can begin to happen. And it moves people towards relationships instead of away from relationships when under stress and pain. It can lead to awareness and revision of early decisions and life scripts about intimacy and trust which can often sabotage our most important relationships. Learning to experience the full range of feelings of pain, fear, anger, love, pleasure and joy results in happiness and fulfillment.
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